UNTIL LOVE FINDS YOU | STAND IN THE GAP

I was on the phone to my mum today and when I got off, I remembered why I wanted to write this post that had been sitting in my drafts for a month. I talk a lot about my dad so people naturally think I may not have a great relationship with my mum. That makes me smile.

My mum has been my best friend since I was a little girl. We fall out sometimes because we are girls, but it’s a bond that nothing can break. Also, my parents seem to get jealous when I pay attention to one person more than the other. It can be exhausting sometimes, but I thank God for them.

Today, I will share something priceless I learned from my mum. The role of a woman as an advocate.

When God made Adam, Eve was a part of him. It took God putting Adam to sleep and taking out his rib for Eve to manifest. Then God declared that man and woman should have dominion over creation AND be fruitful.

The most basic form of fruitfulness is procreation of children. Adam provided the seed and Eve possessed the ability to incubate the man’s seed for the life in it to grow and enter this world. It trickles down to all of us.

The woman is the link between man and his fruit. And the woman is still the link between him and his fruit in every aspect. She does this by being an advocate. A woman is not just someone who isn’t a man. She is a gateway. That is why she possesses a womb. She takes in the man’s seed, nurtures it and brings it into the world.

A man must be fruitful in many ways; spiritually, at his job, in his family etc, not just the biological. Likewise, her role as a helper is to take whatever seed her husband produces in terms of his career, finances, interpersonal relationships, nurture it and birth it.

She mediates on behalf of her husband to birth fruitfulness in her home, and her marriage. That is why Satan came to her first. Because she is the link between man’s greatness and man himself. When he wanted to cause destruction (lack of fruitfulness) he went through the gateway.

As a Christian lady, you will have to run to God many times when your relationship faces challenges. While the man is the head, you are the helper, and your role is to help find solutions. The head must do what a head must do, but you have an important role to play too. Of course, there is a time when he must pamper you and love you, but when we talk about roles, your primary role is not to be an object of love, but to be a helper.

Many times, when your marriage is struggling, and it will, you’ll have to go on your knees and seek God. You don’t run to your bestie, or your mum, or your life coach, when you have not first run to Jesus.

Jesus himself is the high priest and He understands the task God has assigned women to, so He is ever willing to hear you when you go before Him with a request on behalf of your beloved.

Let’s not play it cute here. Satan does not want you to be happy in Christ. He does not want your marriage to fulfil its purpose. When you are walking in your purpose as a woman and helping your beloved exercise dominion over his portion, Satan feels as uneasy as he did back in the garden of Eden.

One marriage after the other, he has destroyed with the same trick. He whispers into the woman’s ear because he knows she is the womb (so delicate and vulnerable). And because the man is vulnerable to the woman, he falls too and there goes a marriage that could have glorified God. Their attention is taken off God and they begin to blame each other. I’m not saying that women are always to blame. Some men are nothing to write home about but that is also why you should pray so much and choose your head wisely.

How do you stand in the gap? By starting now.

                                  "You are a royal priesthood."

When you encounter problems in your life as a single girl, what do you do first? Do you google for help, check on Quora, or message your best friend?

Obviously I am not talking about problems like “where to find an open restaurant at 2am” That is clearly for google.

I am talking about challenges like needing a breakthrough at your job, a health crisis or needing a financial miracle.

Honestly, there are many times when I have googled first when I should have prayed.

The Holy Spirit should be your best friend. He is the ultimate helper, so He is the best person to mentor you for your role as a helper. It’s a lifelong journey. You won’t get it right overnight. But desire, efforts and consistency will help you.

Another reason to learn to stand in the gap is that you will have to introduce your children to prayer. While your husband will be the head and priest of the home, you may spend relatively more time with your babies than he would. And one of the best things your children can grow up seeing is a godly mother who loves God.

I learned how to go to God with everything by watching my mum do it. For years, I watched my mum wake at dawn each night to pray. Many times, when my dad was away for work and he wouldn’t return for several days, my mum will be up at night praying. The habit grew on me.

Dear lady, by now you should have realised the importance of learning to stand in the gap. I challenge you to commit to do this for yourself and your happiness in the future. 

Yours truly

Very Precious