UNTIL LOVE FINDS YOU | FIX YOUR MINDSET!

 

Last Saturday morning, I took a prayer walk in my neighbourhood. This means that I was walking and praying. As I walked, I came along a path and sighted a gentleman about 3 metres away from me.

He was walking towards me. I saw that he was muttering to himself. And I thought to myself while giggling, that, I had met my fellow mad person as we were both walking and talking.

As the gentleman drew closer, I noticed that he was well dressed. His clothes looked clean and well picked out. But nothing prepared me for the alarming discovery I was to make. 

As he got nearer, I realised that he was not only muttering. He was actually speaking out loud. Of course my curiosity got the better of me and I tried to make out what he was saying, only to realise it was unintelligible, and dear, it was not tongues.

He was raising his voice, flailing his arms and seemed to be cussing. It took a moment for me to realise that he had a mental situation. Naturally, I became afraid and begun to pray because it was just us two walking that path and the path was surrounded by bushes. If the madness affecting this man decided to make him slap me right now, nobody was going to come to my rescue. 

I held my breath until he walked past me. 

I looked back at him, sadness welling in my heart. How could such a decent looking man be mad, or mentally unstable?

Then the Holy Spirit told me this. There are many of us Christian ladies who are just like this gentleman. We are walking the paths of life, looking decent, well dressed, our make up intact and carry ourselves well, but, we are mad. We have the wrong mindset. About life, God, relationships, family, excellence, success, education, finances etc.

Today, I have come to challenge you. Of course, I have not attained. While I am doing well on my journey of transformation, I cannot deny that many times in the past, I have appeared beautiful and well kept on the outside but my mind was filled with trash.

It may not be your fault, because our mindset is mostly a result of  the environment we grew up in. Maybe you think all men are trash because you saw your dad mistreat your mum. Or an uncle abused you or molested you. Maybe it was your cousins. Or a family friend you trusted. Maybe a guy you trusted, innocently, treated you badly. 

So you concluded that men are trash and that is your mindset. 

But that is not true. Men are not trash. Some men are wicked and terrible. Some also have sense and do their best. Some women are wicked and terrible too, while other women have good sense and are trying their best.

Why do you have to fix your mindset? Because every battle you will win in your life here on earth begins with your mind. You have the ability to manifest your thoughts. If you can see anything in your mind, it can come into existence in the physical. Why is this? Because we are made in God’s image.

The creation of the universe, by God, begun as a thought. He had a creation mindset. One day, He thought and said:

Let us create man in our image. Let there be light.

Fixing your mindset is a project you should take seriously. Your mindset will determine whether high value love finds you. Your mindset will determine whether you allow an abusive man into your life. Your mindset determines how you respect yourself. Your mindset determines how your life turns out. 

So how do you fix your mindset?

Wisdom is the principal thing, so get it. And in all your getting, get understanding.

Knowledge is the foundation. Wisdom tells you what to do. Understanding tells you how to do it. These are all mind principles. Your knowledge, wisdom and understanding reside in your mind.

Begin by asking God. Ask the Holy Spirit. He is the Spirit of Wisdom, the Spirit of Knowledge, the Spirit of Understanding, and the Spirit of Counsel.

As a Christian lady, the Holy Spirit is ALL you need to fix your mindset. When the Holy Spirit resides with you and you make Him your best friend, He naturally shows you what to do practically, to have an excellent mindset.

He will help you read books that will increase your knowledge. He will give you supernatural wisdom by filling your spirit with it or, causing you to hear certain things from certain people. 

He will give you understanding through some experiences and draw your attention to other people whose lives are serving as a good example of whatever lessons you need to learn.

For example, I believe it was the Holy Spirit who drew my attention to the similarity between us women and the troubled man I met in the path. I could have just walked by and learned nothing from this man’s life. But here I am writing about it and encouraging us all.

So, go into the word of God to challenge your beliefs. I will share some of the mindset I had in the past and the enlightenment I received from God about it. You don’t have to agree with me. I am only sharing.

At 19, I wanted to have a child by artificial insemination. I thought that men were trash lol. As I grew and got closer to God, I learned that it was God’s desire for man and woman to live together and that if they both submit to Him, they could have a happy relationship. It won’t be perfect, but they will find joy in each other.

I did not like my dad. I personally didn’t understand the use of a father apart from paying school fees and providing financial needs. God led strangers into my life to teach me the importance of a father. Way before I was exposed to Bishop Dag’s sermons on honouring fathers, I believe that God sent an angel to me in human form to talk to me. 

Maybe it was because God knew that a large part of my success in life was dependent on my dad speaking blessings over my life to nullify the curses I had incurred upon myself by disregarding and disrespecting him all of my childhood.

May I just share here, for those of you who have daddy issues, please ask God to help you. Coming from me, this is serious. I cannot begin to tell you my dad’s faults. They were real things that could shatter a little girl’s entire world. And I know that it was God who worked on my mind and heart, because there were very valid reasons for how I felt about my dad. But I learned that it does not matter who your dad is, even if he is a murderer or an armed robber, the word of God tells you to honour him.

I’m not going to pretend it was easy fixing this particular mindset. It took a number of years, lots of prayer, many therapy sessions, and counsel from wise people. But today, I am so glad that God took me through this process. Personally, anytime I want to take a step which other people oppose, but my dad supports, that’s it for me. I am okay! 

If your dad is still alive, strive for it. He grew up with trauma of his own and may have treated you badly. But choose what God wants for your life and begin a journey of forgiveness and healing today, dear girl. Nothing can replace the covering a girl receives from her father. Nothing! 

This is how our relationship with God is supposed to be. Nobody’s opinion should matter to us anymore when we know our heavenly Father approves of us. Because God intended for our earthly fathers to mirror His relationship with us, Satan has made it his job to bring division between fathers and children.

He does this because he knows it breaks God’s heart. He makes children believe that their dads are wretched for abusing their mothers, cheating on their mothers, abusing them sexually etc. Of course these things are very wrong, but you need to understand that there is a bigger picture and Satan plans these things from way before a person is born. I will share more on this later. 

I shall pause here on this topic because I perceive that a number of us need to do some fixing. This blog is not for you to just come and read and go. The purpose is to help you find healing and become your best self as God intended for you. So, ponder over what you have read, pray and take necessary steps. 

It will be hard, we know, and the road will be muddy and rough but we will get there. Heaven knows this. 

Jesus loves you dearly.