How to Get Over Him and Move On (5) Last In The Series

Congratulations for making it here! This is where you want to get to: the image up there. A state of happiness, freedom, real joy, and contentment. The place where your feminine radiance shines so bright that other people want to step into that aura and be caressed by the warmth of your radiance.  

So dear Christian girl, are you going to grieve or grow? First of all, I’m going to do both.

I made a promise to myself while crying, that I wasn’t going to waste this experience for a minute. I will come out of this a better woman. I will come out of it a respectable and happy woman, loved by God, who knows her worth and won’t settle for less than God has for her.

The comforting scripture I have for you is that:

“We do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who has tempted in every way as we are, yet without sin.”

“Therefore, let us approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in time of need.”

Jesus is ever ready to love you, to hold you in His arms and rock you to sleep.

He loves you more than any man, boyfriend, beloved or husband could. Most men don’t even know how to love themselves too. Everybody is learning and growing so why place your happiness in the hand of another man that Jesus died for?

Rise up, daughter of God. Dust yourself. Straighten the creases in your dress. Find your crown and adjust it on your beautiful head.

Spend a lot of time with your maker and the lover of your soul. He has many loving words to pour into your heart. It is the love you receive from Him that you will pour out into others. So you are doing yourself a disservice when you don’t spend time with Jesus.

Your worth is not in a man. Neither is it in your achievements, academics, qualifications or physical looks. You are worthy because God created you. God is a master planner and if he sat and thought it right for you to be born into this world, then you are worthy. And that is all you need to know.

It does not matter what anybody said to you. Whether your parents wanted you born or not, whether they think you are a shame to your family, whether your friends ostracize you on most days or whether you don’t fit into your peer circles.

It does not matter the mistakes you have made. As long as you are alive, God is giving you a chance to let go of the past and forge ahead.

“No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.”

Darling, FIND YOUR WORTH IN JESUS. That is all that matters. And that is your power!

Find a way to believe that your future is bright. That God created you to be happy in Him. Stop believing the lies from Satan and the other human beings that he operates through.

You intuitively know the negative people in your life. Shed them off. Make new godly friends if you must. Remember that iron sharpens iron. Even in church, choose your close company wisely. Jesus had an inner circle of three, within the 12 disciples. Who are you to be any different?

I hope you have not fallen back into talking with your ex in the name of maintaining a friendship, when you are not completely healed. Respect yourself, darling and give yourself all the love you need. 

Take all the time you need. Tell him politely to leave you alone. When you have worked on your emotional and mental health and you feel strong enough to engage, you may reconnect with him. Forgive him if you were hurt by anything he did. Yes, forgive him. And ask God to fill your heart with godly love for him. 

This is for your own good. Bitterness and unforgiveness is unbecoming of a daughter of God. God wants you to have a meek, gentle and sweet spirit. 

Well done for working on yourself up to this point. You may need a month or two more to heal completely. When you are done, or you can continue now, head over to my new series on preparing for marriage.

Personally, I am very afraid of failing at marriage. So, I have been having a discussion with Jesus and guess what, He led me to people, and resources that have changed my mindset, attitude, and perspective. I cannot wait to share these beautiful secrets with you on preparing for marriage!

Remember, always begin with Jesus. Even after your broken heart is healed, stay with Jesus. You will be an absolute fool to walk away from Him. Have you not learned anything this whole time?

Finally, do not stop the new hobbies and interests you picked up. Trust me, you will be tempted to, but fight it. Do this for yourself, darling. Your future self will thank you for this season. 

You are beautiful. You are precious. You are loved and you are worth it all. 

Catch you on the train to marriage! Oops, if you are not the marriage type, I have an article for you too.😉😉😉